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Baby we'll be butterflies.
I guess I'll see you next lifetime;
That sounds so divine!
I guess I'll see you next lifetime;
I guess I will now.
I guess I'll see you next lifetime;
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Wait a little while! -Next Lifetime, Erykah Badu, Baduizm
So a couple of days ago, I was having a case of writer's block in the worst way; (as you heard the other day) one of the things I did to remedy this was sending out a massive cry-for-help text to my muses. As my responses were coming in, I got two ideas that really sparked my interests (look for the other post later in the week).
In any case, one of my good friends, Jarrett (Jiburgess.blogspot.com ...you should REALLY check this guy out) was having a bit of the same issues I was having, and also needed help developing an idea. As I was shooting off routes he could take with his blog, he decided that maybe I should write it
(probably because I sent my ideas via text and he probably got tired of me wasting 80 percent of his monthly texts...sorry!).So here goes...
I have figured out the biggest conundrum in male/female relations (or at least I'd like to think so)!!
More often than not, especially from my minority brethren, I hear: A) men ain't [insert expletive], B) a good man is hard to find, C) too many men are beneath my standards, D) it was time for me to settle down so he had to suffice. I say--it's just a big case of bad timing.
Bad timing? Rhonda, how you can say that all of the problems we have with the opposites sex is bad timing? Are you crazy? (Depends on who you ask...)
But if you think about it, as women, from a very young age we are taught to fit a certain mold. We are given baby dolls and Barbies to learn how to be a mother; we are given toy kitchen sets to teach us how to be a good wife; and we are taught that by the time we graduate from college, we should have two degrees: a B.S and an MRS. And we must not forget about that incessant biological clock (more like hour glass) that is quickly running out of sand--we must beat it at any cost. Forget being an accomplished exec, because if you hit 30 and don't have a husband and kids, you can kiss your real woman card goodbye.
With all of that being said, think of how it feels for a man. From the beginning, he is given toy soldiers to teach him to conquer all that come in his path (yes, that includes women); he is given super heroe action figures to teach him how to be bigger, stronger and smarter; he is taught that when he graduates from college, he shouldn't rush to get tied down with a wife and kids--at least take 10-15 years to become the CEO of a company before you even remotely think about serious relationships.
So you meet around 25, and the woman is putting on (as my boyfriend would say) the full-court press; and at the same time the guy is thinking it's just a pick-up game. You see the problem? BAD TIMING! (and bad communication---but that's not the angle I'm going for today). Now that's not to excuse the few ass-hat men who are just plain failing life. And I could also say for those women who keep attracting those so-called good-for-nothings--maybe you should look inwardly to see why people like that continuously gravitate toward you. No one can love you if you don't love yourself.
In any case, do you see where I'm going with this? What do you think?
Maybe I've Found the Answer......Peace.
2 comments:
Yes! You did a better job than I would've done with this. I probably would've rambled and gotten misinterpreted. I love how my thoughts came from a female point of view as unbiased as it did. Thanks Roxanne!
I like where you went with this one. I would have to agree. Bad timing is TOTALLY one reason.
Love and Peace
Akia
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